When you’re in a relationship you have to compromise. You have to put your pride to the side and suck up somethings for the good of the relationship team. That’s the way things are supposed to go…but we all know that is not always what happens. People don’t want to put their pride to the side. People don’t want to admit when they’re wrong because nobody wants to openly admit when they are wrong. Both men and women think that they have the greater viewpoint on issues based on expirence and like to express it and discredit others to prove a point.

With all that being said, I’m in an regular/abnormal relationship and all statements said above comply with my relationship. I say regular/abnormal because what is the definition of a normal relationship? If you ask people in a relationship: it is one where people care about each other, resolve their differences through compromise, and the unsaid creteria of a relationship is not to argue. On the flipside how can you have 2 people come together in this world from different paths and with individual goals not argue at somepoint of their lives? People especially if they love each other and have sometype of pride in whatever it is they’re talking about will argue. So therefore I have a regular/abnormal relationship…back to the main point.

So with all of my above knowledge I was quite tired of arguing with my girlfriend about certain issues: twitter, my love of technology, her absorbtion of celebreality (and I’m not talking about vh1), what’s hot in fashion, marriage ideas, etc…so I proposed an idea. Every week or so we pick a magazine article for each other to read. This way we find out more about each others and get a better glipse on what each other is thinking by the articles that we pick out to read.

But B, “where did this novel idea derive?” Well that’s easy, my amigo. About every other week or so, Jess and I head over to the local bookstop for reading and Starbucks. We’ll grab a stack of magazines, get a table, and then sit and read for a few hours. At the end of our date, we’d each pick a magazine to take home and read there. Some folks might say, “well you’re not talking to each other so how are you finding more out about each other?” Listen how much are you really finding out about someone by taking them to a movie? With our book dates we see what interests each other. You can find out about what is important to someone by the magazines they read. Which is exactly the point. That point is even more stressed when we choose an article that we want the other person to read.

Sharing articles opens the gates of communication, which are already quite the weak point in relationships as can easily seen if you look at divorce statistics…as Raplh Waldo Emerson said, “books are for nothing but to inspire.” Reading is an inspiration. It is an an inspiration to unlock the mind and also the mouth to conversation and ideas. Reading, sharing ideas, and having an ongoing conversation can be a simple thing if properly worked for and understanding my partner is an awesome thing which I will work glady for.